12 Steps to Recovery From Codependency, Addictions, Anger Management, Stress & Life Challenges. Aurther: Dr. Jennifer Jones

•We must always admit and be aware that we are powerless over anger; abuse; oppression; conflict; jealousy; envy; hate; heartbreak; crisis and that God has the power to remove it.

•We must come to a decision, admit that God will love and restore us to sanity.

•We must make a final decision by trusting God to care for us and guide us in our journey.

•We must not look back on our past lives and repressed feelings, or store anger, but look to the future, by uncovering our past and experience our recovery.

•We must admit to God, and to ourselves truth of our feelings, attitudes and behaviors, begin to feel validated and accepted for who we are at this moment.

•We must be willing to allow changes in our attitudes, and feelings, make changes in our choices, decisions, and behaviors with the help of God.

•Write in a personal journal all those who hurt us and those that we hurt, identify what was done, allow ourselves to validate, own, pray, and understand the resulting feelings.

•Be willing to forgive those who harmed us, and those we harmed, and let go of the past and let God.

•Recognizing that our own attitudes and behaviors were imitative of our dysfunctional caretakers and harmful, not only to ourselves, but to those around us, take responsibility for them and make appropriate amends where necessary.

•Continue the process of discovery and recovery, making changes in our lives, by the help of God, recognizing and celebrating our uniqueness, became capable of fulfillment through God.

•Continue prayer and meditation in order to improve our conscious contact with God, allow God's will to be done.

Having achieved a spiritual awakening, characterized by a balance and harmony with ourselves, those around us, and God, we became willing to share our experiences and hope with others that are in the battle, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

ABUSE AND CODEPENDENCY

Abuse has many faces: pain, fear, misery, anger, negative thoughts, addiction, bad behaviors, lifestyles, and codependency to name a few. Abuse occurs when people mistreat or misuse other people, showing no concern for integrity for others or themselves. The many faces of abuse begin with the abuser setting their rules of control by inflicting pain; emotionally, sexually, verbally, and mentally.

Codependency is one of the results that stems from being abused, it is in a category of its own starting with learned behavior that can be passed down from generation to generation, this emotional and behavioral condition effects individual's ability to function in any healthy, mutual and happy relationship.

 

Recovery from abuse in any form starts with the individual, being aware that abuse is present and what needs to be done to end it.

LIFE CHALLENGES

Family relationships (non-supportive). 

Disappointments in love.

Disappointments in friendships.

Addiction/Relapse

Academic or career disappointments.

Health issues.

Financial crises.

Existential crisis.

Stress/Grief Crisis.

Anger Issues

These are a few challenges that many individuals face on daily basis, however, utilizing tools, techniques and attending therapeutic educational groups are some ways an individual can recovery from their crisis (Jones, 2025).